Chill Out, it’s just a Q&A (30 tidbits…)

Inspired by Post-IVF World, I thought I’d take on the Q&A challenge. Being the person who always took the Cosmo quizzes back in the day, I thought it was time I put a lighter post on here after all the shit that’s hit the fan…


1. What is your middle name?
Lynn – like half of the girls born in the 70’s. Not very creative. That being said, I actually got my middle name from my older sister (who was 7 when I was born) who wanted to name me after the town we grew up in but my mother and father vetoed that and this was the compromise.


2. What is your favourite colour?
Deep blue. Maxfield Parrish blue, like in his painting, Stars. Our house is that color as is our living room. Ironically it doesn’t look that great ON me – I prefer olive green and deep plum when it comes to clothing colors.

Aimee -kindergarten class

3. Who was your first best friend?
Her name was Jennifer, and she was my best friend in kindergarten. Probably friends before that as I went to full time daycare/kindergarden from age 2-6 but I have few memories beyond taking swim lessons there and listening to Mickey Mouse Disco on on the record player, hahaha. (PS – bonus point if you can find me in this class photo!)

4. How tall are you?
5’8″, although a few weeks ago I was measured and they said I’m 5’7.5″ which sucks. I’m sticking to 5’8″ thankyouverymuch!


5. Cats or dogs?
Absolutely a dog person for life, but I do like cats on a case-by-case basis (the talkative ones, not the long haired snobby ones that poop in your houseplants). Above is me with my sweet Daisy who passed at the age of 14 five years ago this summer.

WLHS friends shoes color

6. Funniest moment throughout school?
I feel too old for this question as I’ve been out of high school 26 years! Nothing hugely stands out…more “fun” than funny when I think of the good memories. Perhaps maybe funny thinking about running from the cops with a bunch of other friends in the woods of an island down by the river near my house, in pitch black and no clue where we were going? Or would it be my smooth move of getting caught by the cops with a wine cooler with a friend down by the river and tossing it into the bushes while the flashlight was on me, as if he couldn’t prove anything without it in my hand? (Worst of all? I hadn’t even started drinking it…but still got the MIP and had to take a “drinking is bad” class to expunge it from my record).

7.  How many countries have you visited?
Seven so far but SO many more on the list…Canada, Mexico, Jamaica, England, Scotland, France, and of course, Australia. Next up are Italy and New Zealand, and, someday, Africa…all of it.

8. Are you in or have you gone to college?
Took me a total of 12 years to get my degree but I did it (thanks, internet, for coming along so I could finish it online!) – BS in Human Resources from Bellevue University after studying Sociology and other fun things for 3 1/2 years at Portland State University, a smidge of time at UW in Seattle and a year at Brooks Institute of Photography in Santa Barbara. No regrets!

9. What was your favourite/worst subject at high school?
Favorite: English. Hey I’m a writer! I had some really exceptional teachers, particularly Mr Kennedy, who introduced me to Emily Dickinson and ee cummings. Close second though was Photography, which I was finally allowed to take my Senior year…I miss all that darkroom time! (Photos both taken by my high school photography teacher – one of me reading TS Eliot, the other of me at age 17)

Worst: Physics and Biology. Shitty teacher – if either was taught by Neil deGrasse Tyson I’m sure I’d have loved ’em. Teachers make a difference.


10. What is your favourite drink?
In the morning, definitely a Prana Chai with almond milk and dab of honey. It was the thing we missed most when my husband moved here from Australia, so we always order a year’s supply (fortunately they have a US distributor!).

Cocktail-wise, a good glass of Scotch, straight up, on a cold evening, or in the summer, a “Sweet & Savory”- basically a lemon drop with rosemary.  For many years my drink of choice was a Chambord cocktail that had different names depending on what city I lived in (Seattle: Grape Nehi; SoCal: Purple Hooter, Portland: Chambord Kamikaze. Go figure.).

Granada -landscape

11. What is your favourite animal?
Beyond dogs, I gotta say horses. That’s #4 on my bucket list after traveling, having zero mortgage, and paying off the house. I read every Black Stallion book there was growing up (National Velvet was too snooty for me, but I did like Misty of Chincoteague), and went to horse camp for a month every summer in rural Southern Oregon growing up (pictured above).

12. What is your favourite perfume?
I don’t wear perfume – too much toxic shit in the storebought stuff and once I stopped wearing it, I noticed my sense of smell improved VASTLY (I can’t even go into a grocery store soap aisle without cringing from all of the artificial scents…). I do love a good body butter though, something cinnamon/clove-y (basically I don’t mind smelling like a gingersnap!), and for a long time I was crushing on the Five Seed products that were discontinued a couple years ago.


13. Tea or Coffee?
Lemon-ginger herbal tea or Prana Chai. I hate regular tea, the smell of it is nasty to me. Love me a good cappuccino as well but no drip coffee, I’m too tender-tummied for that anymore.

14. What would you name your children?
Sore subject, obviously, but we had – as readers know – Henry for the baby we lost. If our domestic adoption works out, we have several names we’ve been toying with but I won’t share them. For some reason all my former favorite names hit “Top 10 Baby Name” lists in the last 5 years so I’m afraid I’ll jinx it if I talk!

Debs -Aimee Holli Rochelle

15. What sports do you or have you played?
I took jazz since age 8 and was on dance team in high school for two years and LOVED it (once a dancer, always a dancer – that’s me on the left with two of my best girlfriends in what is clearly the 1980s) before injury ended it all. Fantasy? Learning Catherine Zeta-Jones’ All That Jazz number from the movie Chicago. So badass.

I also played JV volleyball freshman year and sucked. No upper arm abilities whatsoever.

When stress fractures permanently took away my ability to perform as a dancer, my mother said “well you can join the golf team as that’s low impact, or you can get a job”. Needless to say within weeks I was working in the food court at the mall.

16. What is your favourite book?
Fiction: Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison. The first book that made me sob uncontrollably. That woman has WORDS.

Nonfiction: Radical Homemakers: Reclaiming Domesticity from a Consumer Culture – Shannon Hayes’ book changed my life and opened me up so much to the many ways one can live, and make a simple living on my terms.

17. Who are some of your favourite bloggers or YouTubers?

  • Alaskan Blueberry – my sista from another mista, with a wicked combo of homesteading, cursing, and IVF mixed in.
  • Infertility Honesty and Different Shores and Sliding Doors – I’m only a couple months out of IVF treatments so 99% of the blogs that are of people who are still in treatment or now pregnant are too painful for me to read. These blogs, like that of Post-IVF World, are a great source of support and empathy.
  • A Flower That Lives On A Star – a birth mother blog that touches my heart so much as my husband and I try, for the second time, to build a family through adoption.
  • And there are OODLES of homesteading blogs if you are on the desktop version of my blog under “Cool Blogs” in the right margin!

18. What is your favourite movie?
Just one? Impossible.  Top 5 perhaps (in no particular order)?

  • Cool Hand Luke
  • Bull Durham
  • Beasts of the Southern Wild
  • Out of Sight
  • French Kiss
  • The Jerk


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19. Are you single or taken?
Married to my sweetheart for 3 years, in love for 6 1/2! But I hate the word “taken”. Reminds me of how my husband said he hates the idea of the bride being walked down the aisle, “as if she were chattel”, he said πŸ™‚

20. What is your current hair colour?
Reddish brownish faded with a few bits of gray around my hairline – with my back injury, it’s kept me from sitting that long in a colorist’s chair for a GOOD color (not to mention my hair’s not been cut since the fall, aaaah! I’ve played around with my color on and off since I was in my twenties but beyond that one year when I dyed it black and it was Hell on Wheels to get it back to normal, I haven’t gone all that extreme…but I wouldn’t mind trying again! (Not black though as brown roots on black hair is just not sexy).


21. What is your favourite season?
Early autumn when it’s still warm out but no longer fucking hot as hell. Sundress in the day, long sleeve in the evening. Or – any season if I’m at the coast.

22. Favourite memory from childhood?
Our road trips for sure. In 1980-1981 we moved from Oregon to Virginia for a contract job my stepfather had, renting out our home, and drove to VA through the Southern part of the country in a wild 5 or 6 day trip from Christmas to New Years, even managing to hit Graceland along the way. I lived in a diverse neighborhood and had a great group of friends who I rollerskated with every day after school. We visited all of the historical sites throughout the original 13 colonies, even lying on the sidewalk under the World Trace Center as a family to get the full impact how tall it was. Went to the White House for a tour on my 7th birthday and trekked through all of the museums and monuments. So Rad. When we drove home, my brother flew out to join us and we drove through most of Canada, camping from Quebec to BC. Trip of a lifetime.

A few years later in 1984, my stepdad had a summer contract in Savannah, Georgia, so while he flew out, my mom and I road tripped it (I was 10, so we still got along) from OR to GA, and drove through the middle of the country, camping most of the time. We got caught in a small tornado in Kansas, I got to meet both of my maternal great-grandmothers and aunties at the farmhouse my GG-grandfather built in Southern Illinois (both grannies passed later that year, talk about timing…), visited Kentucky Horse Park, learned to ride English, saw Ghostbusters and Gremlins, learned to dive, fell in love with peel & eat shrimp, and learned immediately that I will never live in a humid city ever again :). It was the last summer before life changed for me for good – my father moved out of state that year to Montana and I’d only get to see him once a year after that, and because of my smarts I skipped the 5th grade, moving into middle school a year early. Life was a shitshow for a couple years after that, and that summer, looking back celebrated the end of my childhood in so many ways.

23. Do you speak any different languages and how well?
I took 3 years of Japanese in high school because in the 1980s we were told they would be running the world. I took a year of Italian in college and loved it.

Do I remember either beyond ordering food and saying thank you? Nope.

24. Do you have any siblings?
I have no 100% siblings from both my mother and father. My mom was married a few times and to the first guy she had my older brother and sister, then married my dad and had me, then married my stepfather. He was much older and had 7 kids from his first marriage, but they were all grown and married. I grew up with my older (half) brother and sister. Never knew my stepfather’s kids all that well. After my mom & dad got divorced my dad also remarried, eventually moved away when I was 10 and had 3 kids with my stepmother when I was in middle school, who I tried early on to have relationships with but they appear to have inherited my stepmother’s passive aggressive bitchy gene and blew me off years ago before my father died, so I don’t keep in touch with them. And while there were good memories early on, I definitely was the odd girl out in the family, either referred to as “Tom’s kid” or “Judy’s kid” by others and having no one who could really get what that was like.  My  husband has never seen the resemblance between myself and either of my parents either, go figure…Maybe that’s why I always wanted to adopt, as while it’s not exactly the same, my heart empathizes.


25. How would you describe your fashion sense?
Simple as all hell with a lot of black. I used to be much cooler.

26. What is your favourite restaurant?
I haven’t gone out to a nice dinner since last year because of my back, it’s so sad! For my husband’s 50th birthday I’m taking him to Higgins, one of our most favorite restaurants both for food and service, though, which will be great. Hopefully my doctor will give me the okay to drink by then!!

That being said, I’m a sucker for a good hole-in-the-wall Italian joint and anyone who can make supremely delicious sushi…

27. What are some of your favourite TV shows?
Scandal and Grey’s Anatomy, baby! And while husband & I have a thing for the Bachelorette/Bachelor – crazy addictive – I’ve recently finished marathon watching The Mind of a Chef on Netflix and the current season of Being Mary Jane.

28. PC or mac?
Mac 1000% – never a virus, dude. Got my first one, a grape iMac, in 1999, then moved to laptop. My husband has an iPad, something that I can’t comprehend. I need regular keys…the writer in me needs to truly type, just like I need a ball point pen for my notebook…

29. What phone do you have?
Google Nexus – after running over my Samsung 6 last summer, this has been a keeper. Ironically, I hate iPhones….poor UX as far as I’m considered.

30. Tell us one of your bad habits?
I scratch my right upper arm when I’m stressed, sometimes to the point of peeling. A therapist pointed that out years ago. It’s like a litmus for my mental health now to take a look at it.

So that’s it, 30 things about me you may or may not have known, may or may not care to learn, but kind of a fun trip down memory lane for a lot of these! Definitely would LOVE to see other bloggers do this – particularly from those who tend to focus on one topic, as it’s way cool to see other sides of writers out there!



9 thoughts on “Chill Out, it’s just a Q&A (30 tidbits…)

  1. I enjoyed reading this and getting to know you better!
    Class photo: I’m guessing either the girl in the last row (2nd from the left not including the teacher) with a white shirt and blue overall dress or the girl in the stripes (not the girl with the funny expression in the middle – but the girl on the end) in the 2nd row.
    10 – i love scotch, too!
    11 – agree with you on perfume.
    17 – i love those blogs you list (Alaska Blueberry, infertility honesty, Sliding Doors, Different Shores). I just started following postivfworld and haven’t heard the other one.
    I love the photos you peppered in. Again, I enjoyed getting to know you better.


  2. Yay!!! You did it! Weird you tagged me and I didn’t get a notification though! Just stumbled across it! πŸ™
    Love the ‘like cats on a case by case basis!’ I laughed out loud at that!!!! πŸ˜‚ I just imagine them being lined up and you walking alone pointing at them.. yep I like you.. not you.. not you… your ok… not you… πŸ˜‚


  3. 2. Second row, far right. Am I close? 4. It’s your back’s fault. I’ve gone from 5’4″ to 5’3″ since my back injury. Still 5’4″ on a good back day. πŸ™‚ 8. Couldn’t agree more – a good teacher can make you love any subject. A bad teacher ruins that subject for life. Luckily for me, I had amazing biology teachers. 15. Middle school volleyball here, and I SUCKED. 17. Aww, thanks! 18. I’ve only seen two of those five movies. Time to add some to my to-watch list. 21. Or you mean Alaskan summer. Bwahahahaha 28. Also a mac girl but have a PC. Prefer the mac. 29. What is UX?????


    1. I am in the second row…which one do you think I am? UX= user experience.

      Yeah even though I went to one of the best high schools in the state, supposedly, it was the kind of school where the coach was the driver’s ed teacher and also taught psychology…


  4. Enjoyed reading this and getting to know you! Thanks so much for mentioning me here – I’m honoured.
    It’s funny, I love perfume but some literally make me sick. For me it has to be either herbal or a recognisable one-note flower or oil (e.g. lavender, neroli, bergamot). Sweet generic mixes that just smell of unidentifiable airport duty-free turn my stomach over. Someone in my office wears a famous Dior one that gives me (and my colleagues) quite severe nausea. I know it has “noir” or “night-time” or something in the name – why the hell would you wear that filthy crap for work??

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