36 thoughts on “Beyond devastated

  1. Oh my. Just read your post. I’m without words. My heart is breaking for you. Why?! Why does it have to be so difficult for loving families? I hate that there’s no reason here. Take care of yourself.


  2. So sorry to hear this news. Life can be so unfair – you guys seem so lovely. I hadn’t realized until your last post that you had started adoption proceedings. I hope that starts moving for you both soon. Do you have any donor eggs left?


    1. Yes we started the adoption process back in May of 2015 (under my “Two Plus One” category there is a link to our Adoption Timeline). There is going to be at least a 2-4 more year wait and that was before the state of emergency was called in Ethiopia, so we’re not confident that will work. We have 6 blastocysts left and my husband had a stern talk with our RE saying that if we do it a 6th time, there’s no f*king way he’s not going to use the grade A ones he passed on this last time.

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        1. God!! That’s negligence! And he should tell u before the transfer what’s going in! U have to agree and make a choice. He can’t decide on his own! What a pain!! I’m fuming here!


        1. Yeah International Adoption used to be much quicker and once you’re signed up with one agency you cannot start adoption proceedings with DHS or with a domestic agency so you’re kind of SOL if things go slow with the country you have chosen… unless you choose to of course forfeit the $12,000 plus that you’ve already put down towards that adoption. 😦


  3. “I’m sorry” seems insufficient, but I am. I hope it brings you some comfort (if that is even possible right now) to look at this thread and see the 20+ women rooting for you and grieving with. You’re an inspiration to so many. My thoughts are with you and your husband.


  4. I’m so sorry to read this. My heart breaks for you. I don’t know why it’s easy for many and so hard for us. It doesn’t seem fair, and there are no words I can offer to help you, except to say that I’m sending you my warmest thoughts and regard. Know that you are not alone, and you deserve so much more than the hand you have been dealt. Best of luck in your continued struggle. Wishing you so much success in your struggle.


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