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  1. October 13, 2016 at 7:45 am

    Oh no no no – I am so so sorry to read this 😦 Thoughts are with you and your husband. I really am so sorry 😥


  2. Tittsy
    October 13, 2016 at 7:46 am

    Oh god. I am so sorry. I tried 8 times so I know how hard it is. Don’t give up!!!


  3. October 13, 2016 at 8:00 am

    Oh my. Just read your post. I’m without words. My heart is breaking for you. Why?! Why does it have to be so difficult for loving families? I hate that there’s no reason here. Take care of yourself.


  4. October 13, 2016 at 8:07 am

    My heart just dropped through the floor for you. I’m very sorry to hear this. Sending strength and support to you and your husband!


  5. October 13, 2016 at 8:23 am

    I’m so so sorry. It hurts so much. Thinking of you today. I failed too.


  6. October 13, 2016 at 8:34 am

    I’m really sorry. I know that didn’t mean much but know I’m thinking of you two today.


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  8. October 13, 2016 at 9:07 am

    So very sorry. Utterly devastating.


  9. October 13, 2016 at 9:18 am

    So sorry. Always awful to hear this, it’s the pits. Thinking of you.


  10. October 13, 2016 at 9:33 am

    So sorry to hear this news. Life can be so unfair – you guys seem so lovely. I hadn’t realized until your last post that you had started adoption proceedings. I hope that starts moving for you both soon. Do you have any donor eggs left?


    • October 13, 2016 at 10:46 am

      Yes we started the adoption process back in May of 2015 (under my “Two Plus One” category there is a link to our Adoption Timeline). There is going to be at least a 2-4 more year wait and that was before the state of emergency was called in Ethiopia, so we’re not confident that will work. We have 6 blastocysts left and my husband had a stern talk with our RE saying that if we do it a 6th time, there’s no f*king way he’s not going to use the grade A ones he passed on this last time.

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      • October 13, 2016 at 11:01 am

        Why didn’t they use grade A?


        • October 13, 2016 at 11:57 am

          That’s what pissed us off is that he couldn’t tell us why as he didn’t take any notes when he chose which embryos to thaw.


        • October 13, 2016 at 12:42 pm

          God!! That’s negligence! And he should tell u before the transfer what’s going in! U have to agree and make a choice. He can’t decide on his own! What a pain!! I’m fuming here!


        • October 13, 2016 at 1:14 pm

          Yeah it’s interesting when we go in assuming they have our best interests at heart, and then learn that other clinics do a completely different way…


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      • October 13, 2016 at 11:19 am

        That is crazy why would they not use the best ones!? Good work on your husbands part. Will check out you adoption timeline – wow I had no idea it would take so long!


        • October 13, 2016 at 11:58 am

          Yeah International Adoption used to be much quicker and once you’re signed up with one agency you cannot start adoption proceedings with DHS or with a domestic agency so you’re kind of SOL if things go slow with the country you have chosen… unless you choose to of course forfeit the $12,000 plus that you’ve already put down towards that adoption. 😦


  11. myrainbowdream
    October 13, 2016 at 10:15 am

    Gutted for you. So sorry.


  12. October 13, 2016 at 10:24 am

    I’m so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. X


  13. mrsmoeh
    October 13, 2016 at 10:25 am

    Oh no….I’m so incredibly sorry for you and your husband.


  14. October 13, 2016 at 10:27 am

    I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you ❤️


  15. October 13, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    Sorry it didn’t work. x


  16. sewingbutterfly
    October 13, 2016 at 1:00 pm

    I am so sorry 😦


  17. October 13, 2016 at 2:19 pm

    So sorry, thinking of you and your husband x


  18. October 13, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    Ugh, so, so sorry! 😢


  19. October 13, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    My heart aches for you and your hubby. Sending you love.


  20. October 14, 2016 at 5:04 am

    I’m so sorry, I’d really been hoping you would get your positive, you’ve already been through so much. Life is so unfair sometimes. I would also be feeling angry at your doctor that he didn’t use the grade A embryos!!


  21. girlwithagolddress
    October 14, 2016 at 6:45 am

    “I’m sorry” seems insufficient, but I am. I hope it brings you some comfort (if that is even possible right now) to look at this thread and see the 20+ women rooting for you and grieving with. You’re an inspiration to so many. My thoughts are with you and your husband.


  22. October 14, 2016 at 7:59 am

    I’m so sorry. Life is just very, very unfair sometimes.


  23. October 14, 2016 at 3:50 pm

    I’m so so sorry.


  24. October 15, 2016 at 3:45 am

    I’m so very sorry. There are no words but my heart aches for you. Much love. Xx


  25. October 16, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    I’m so sorry to read this. My heart breaks for you. I don’t know why it’s easy for many and so hard for us. It doesn’t seem fair, and there are no words I can offer to help you, except to say that I’m sending you my warmest thoughts and regard. Know that you are not alone, and you deserve so much more than the hand you have been dealt. Best of luck in your continued struggle. Wishing you so much success in your struggle.


  26. October 17, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    I am so very sorry!


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