Workin’ 9 to 5 (…and dealing with financial ups & downs in your career)

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I do believe I’m in my 70’s. Hmm. 🙂 (image source)

So as some of you know, I’ve been a sufferer of Bag Lady Syndrome for some time now. I suppose it originated with my father who was obsessed with money and my mother who refused to talk about it – and who both did just fine financially in their lives (not that my father left me a thing when he died…but boy did his other daughters from his “real” family travel the globe soon after his death!). Beyond a “Personal Finance” class in high school that taught me how to balance a checkbook (because we all still carry those around, eh) and a savings account opened when I was maybe 10 or 11 years old, I had zero training in how the world of money worked.

Fortunately in my early 20’s I took a job working at my retail employer’s credit division as a collections rep, and learned very quickly what bad credit could do to people. I learned about credit scores and bankruptcies and consumer credit counseling. I saw bad behavior stemming from creditors’ willingness to give $5-10K credit lines in the form of a gold card, watching twenty-somethings fill their closets without full wallets. I knew that a 620 score was the minimum we’d take and saw five digit balances more than I care to remember, and how a quick look at a customer’s credit could ultimately close their account even if this was the first time they’d ever missed a payment.

Because of that, I never, ever have missed a payment on anything in my life.

EVER.

My first credit card was with Meier & Frank with a $100 limit, followed by a visa with a $500 limit. I thought I was so cool. Soon thereafter there was Nordstrom (do you know I still remember my credit card number, as I’d tear it up but they’d let me just tell it to them if I wanted to buy something…wow.), then Saks and Victoria’s Secret and something called a Bravo card for a short time.

Pay it off every month? Ha! That was a concept I’d never heard of.

But I was a good little customer, paying regularly, sometimes more than the minimum, making those suede thigh high boots the most expensive Friday night accessory ever after interest was calculated. My credit limits were slowly raised and life was good.

Don’t worry, I’m not leading you over a cliff with this story of mine.

As the years passed and I reached 30, I decided to go back and finish my degree. I first took out a private loan for photography school (Why private, you ask? Nothing like completeing a FAFSA and have them tell you that yes, you CAN afford to pay $20K a year towards your education based on your $38K salary! What a joke.), and $30K into that, knew that it’d cost triple that to finish my degree, and would never be something a gal like me could pay off, nor could I ever get approved for a mortgage someday. So I took out $10K more and finished my degree in the field I’d been working in for the past 6 years – human resources. I had most of the credits so after a year, I had my bachelor’s degree and was, you guessed it, $40K in debt along with $20K in credit card balances.

Yet somehow because of that credit score, during the housing bubble of 2006 the powers that be approved me for a home loan at 5.9%. I was shocked but hugely grateful, and knew that I would do right by my finances and get myself in gear. And through career advancement, adjustments to my lifestyle, renting out rooms, living car-free, and ultimately starting my own business 3 1/2 years ago? I was able to pay off all of my debt, minus my mortgage. Let’s just say, the day I paid off my student loans? I cried like a baby.

Yet over the years, I’ve remained subject to what is often referred to as “bag lady syndrome”. More magazine’s article, How Much Money is Enough?, spoke of the character in Blue Jasmine as it relates to many women’s relationship to money:

“Jasmine is women’s fears given flesh: that we are just one pink slip, catastrophic medical bill or failed relationship from homelessness. The anxiety runs so deep that nearly half of all women…fear becoming bag ladies.”

So, so true. While I’m doing very well in my business, if I am not completely slammed with work, with clients pounding my door asking for my help, I often feel on the edge of financial devastation. What if no one ever wants me to recruit for them again? What if the economy goes south? What if my luck runs out? WTF WTF WTF!!!! Panic! Panic!

Thus far, none of that has happened. To answer my panic-laced questions:

  1. I have been working in this field for 18 years. Hiring may have evolved, and recruiters may have to move around to stay working, but us good ones? We are always working. I have built a strong reputation based on the work I’ve done. I’ll be fine.
  2. And what if the economy does tank again? It did in 2009, and I adjusted, and I worked, and I paid my bills. I’ll be fine.
  3. Luck? This is not luck that brought me to where I am in my life. In the immortal words recently uttered by Taylor Swift: “Someday when you get where you’re going, you’ll look around and you will know that it was YOU and the people who love you who put you there — and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.” I’ll be fine.

When you work as a consultant and bill by project rather than by an hourly rate, your income can be similar to selling cars or real estate. Basically, it can be profitable, but you cannot predict how or when that business will come. Because of that, my solopreneur business model has made me much more conservative in how I approach money. If you don’t know until the client signs on the dotted line and you receive their first check if the deal is truly going to happen, you have to put in contingencies to make sure you are protected financially in your own life. You need to have backup plans as well – i.e., if business gets really slow, what are the “in case of emergency” tactics to keep you afloat?

Along with those contingencies, you also need to know what you will do with any windfalls. Where are your priorities?

Early on in my business, when I could see I’d be making more than I did in my former corporate life, I promised myself that my debt came first on the priority list. Before healthcare, before retirement, that debt MUST go.

You see here’s the thing- financial planners will often tell you to never ignore your retirement planning, and that advice has value – to a point. But there’s also what I simply call “financial sanity” – meaning, eliminating what gives me the greatest emotional stress financially is of a higher priority. And for me, that was credit card and student loan debt. I needed to make sure I wasn’t being dragged under by interest rates that essentially had me dogpaddling.

Once I got the loans and credit card paid off (I only have one credit card, mind you, which is a mileage card that has been worth its weight in gold, as I put all my purchases and bills on it, then pay that off each month. Those miles have flown me to Australia and France.), then I attacked my home equity loan, which was part of my original mortgage financing (80/20). Basically, that was the next highest interest rate.

How did I do this all? Yes I did okay financially, but most of it was out of sheer simple living, including:

  • Before I married in 2014, I had roommates renting out the bedroom in the basement and used all of that towards those bills.
  • From 2008 to 2015, I didn’t have a car and relied primarily on my bike and public transport, using a car-sharing service as needed.
  • We don’t have cable – we have rabbit ears which gets all the basics no problem.
  • We use Ting for mobile ($57/mo for two people, best deal around), I have the cheapest internet plan out there (I learned that most families can do just fine on the lowest-tier package which is so true).
  • We grow and/or pick most of our own produce.
  • We shop primarily in the bulk aisles and cook a LOT – these days we have an allowance to go out for one breakfast, lunch and dinner each week.
  • We don’t spend a lot of money on miscellaneous crap and most of our gifts are homemade or experiential (my husband surprised me with a drive out to the botanic gardens last week – way more fun than a trinket!).
  • We don’t have a “clothing budget” as we shop maybe once or twice a year at most.
  • I don’t wear makeup and I get my hair cut once a year at most. My husband cuts his own hair – the cost of the clippers? Same as one to Bishop’s Barbershop.
  • We aren’t fancy when we go out, we don’t drink a ton, and we aren’t fixated with accumulating ‘stuff’. My biggest luxury this past month was adding more potting soil to the raised beds and shopping at the Native Plant Sale. 🙂
  • We stay at cheap Airbnb or motels on vacation and use miles to get there.
  • My husband has learned basic bike repair and maintenance so no more need to pay for tuneups.
  • We love DIY and repurposing projects!

And as a solopreneur, I’ve made it non-negotiable that we have 6 months’ worth of bills in our bank account at any given time, so when it’s slow, we’re not living hand to mouth. It’s super hard at times to not spend it, but it’s SO worth it.

Along with that, we invested in a financial planner to help us calculate what we need to do to meet our goals, from how much I should set aside for estimated taxes, to paying off our house even earlier (I refinanced to a 3% 15 year mortgage two years ago, SO glad I did), to retirement planning. As a business owner, I was given some bad information in the past about where to save for retirement, and our advisor’s education has been invaluable in pointing us in the right direction. She lets me question her, she doesn’t get frustrated when my husband or I need clarification, and she communicates in channels I work best in – shared docs, emails, etc. – along with being available onsite as well.

So going forward into this year, my husband and I have discussed our finances regularly – something that I’ve found to be so vital not just for our bank accounts but for our relationship. He feels more included in a process that he’s not had much experience in (he never had a credit card or owned a car before we were married), and I feel like we’re facing this important aspect of our lives with our heads on straight.

Our financial and life goals aren’t always aligned with the outside world. And because of that, I’d often doubted myself for wishing for things that aren’t “textbook”. Then in 2012, I read the book that to this day I still consider the book that most changed my life: Radical Homemakers. As I mentioned a while back on my blog, “It gave me permission to make new decisions, it opened my eyes to the creative ways others are living simply, and it spurred me to start in a new, clearer direction in my own life.” From making the decision to not have health insurance for 2 1/2 years (getting on it only when my husband was able to obtain it through his employer) and spending my money instead on holistic care through my ND, regular yoga and monthly massage, to understanding exactly how little I needed to make to live on in my home, it woke me up. It gave me courage.

“Our society has indoctrinated us with a lot of fear. Fear of living without a formal job title, the security of a regular paycheck, stepping outside of our educational infrastructure or even the corporate food system. Radical homemakers are pretty tired of all that fear.”
~ Shannon Hayes, Author of Radical Homemakers

So we are headed fiercely in the direction of our next goal: to pay off our home within 5 years. We have a dollar amount that our advisor has given us to make that happen (along with her advice about retirement savings, which I’ve taken and modified to my ‘sanity’ requirement), and are plugging away. We are talking about ways to economize even more. I am looking at ways to expand my business. With the potential for children in our future, the sooner we reach this goal, the more we don’t have to rely on two incomes, or higher incomes. The more we can sock away for retirement with this beautiful equity called home under our feet. The more we can breathe.

When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace.
~Author Unknown

 

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  One thought on “Workin’ 9 to 5 (…and dealing with financial ups & downs in your career)

  1. February 25, 2016 at 10:20 am

    I have never heard of the bag lady syndrome before, but now I realize that is what I have. Even though I know it is irrational I have always had a fear of waking up with nothing to my name and I’m pretty sure my slight anxiety is to blame. 😉

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